Saturday, August 7, 2010

Something to Share



Today's post is a little bit different and I have to warn you; it's long. When I started this blog, I was not really sure how open or how anonymous I wanted to be. Slowly, I've come to know many of the blog readers and my comfort level is at a good spot to share a little bit about myself with you.

As much as I blog about things on here, I'm actually a pretty private and reserved person and don't normally air laundry, dirty or clean. It's just my nature. But so many readers have asked about "Mr. Bethany" or "Mr. Pink and Green" that I feel the need to share this with you.

I am divorced.

Everyone has some kind of personal trauma. Age, weight, appearance, education, you name it, everyone has something that is their personal trauma, the thing they wish they could change. Being divorced is mine. In my family, NO ONE is divorced. Not my parents, uncles, aunts, cousins...you get the picture.

It was very difficult for me to tell my parents that I had decided to get divorced. Without getting into details, they supported me 100% in my decision and my father came to Mexico to bring the girls and me back to the U.S. days after I called them.

I certainly never imagined myself being divorced. When I got married, I was very much in love and felt that way until the very end of my marriage. The minnies were wanted and loved so much and were growing up in a happy home...

The reality of it all took a while to hit me, even though my life changed dramatically. The girls were four when we left Mexico and had to assimilate life in a country that had not ever been their own. I had to work after being a stay at home wife and mother for the past six years. And the responsibility of raising two young ladies was solely mine. To be honest, I missed (and still miss) the comfort of my life in Mexico, but realize what is truly important in life.

Ever since I was a child, I have always felt like I could do anything. It's not easy, but I have made a wonderful life for myself and the girls, who are thriving in their environment. They are happy, well adjusted, and love life. Things are good, even though I wish that the stigma of "being divorced" didn't exist.

Will there ever be a "Mr. Maryland Pink and Green?" Honestly, I hope so. But that would be a story for another blog post...

Thanks for reading.

xoxo


P.S. Lots of love to my family for their ever present love and support and to my friend Lucia who helped me find my courage.

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24 comments:

  1. MWAH and I love you and I am sending you an email right now!

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  2. We support you! It's hard to open up about struggles like this and I pray there is another Mr. Maryland Pink and Green for you! xoxo

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  3. Thank you for sharing with us. Hugs to you!

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  4. Thank you for sharing. Personal things are always hard for me to share and disclose and believe me my life is far from even close to perfect.

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  5. I know it's not easy to talk about personal stuff, especially struggles on your blog, so I applaud you for telling your story and being honest! sending you hugs. :)

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  6. Thank you so much for opening up on your blog. You inspire me!! I'm sure there will be a Mr. Who could not love someone like you? XOXO

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  7. I am sure your Mr is on his way!
    Thanks for being so open and sharing...I doubt anyone judges you.

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  8. Bethany,

    I have been there! And, like you, was the only one in my family to have the big D. It was so hard, but my family was there for me and my boys (who were 3 and 8 months) when I had to leave my husband. You are a strong lady both for doing what you had to do then... AND for what you are doing now!

    xox

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  9. Love to you, Bethany! You are a stong and wonderful woman!

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  10. Don't ever let anyone judge you because of your divorce. They don't have to walk in your shoes. You are very lucky that you have a supportive family. Thanks for sharing and keep your head held high.

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  11. Thanks for posting this. You are a wonderful mommy!

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  12. Thanks for sharing! You most definitely are an amazing person and a fabulous mother! I really appreciate that you shared this, because sometimes I feel that we keep things very private from the blog world. We are all here to support you! Lots of love xoxo

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  13. Such a great and honest post! Thank you for sharing!! I think getting divorced for the right reasons is so much better than staying married for the wrong reasons.

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  14. You are so strong! I forsee a Mr. in your future, when the time is right for you and your girls!

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  15. I have such admiration for you. Thanks so much for sharing this with us, and continued luck on your hunt for Mr. Pink and Green. :)

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  16. I applaud you for sharing something so personal. You have nothing to be ashamed of! I have a great admiration for single working moms.
    xoxo

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  17. Thanks for sharing. I, too, am divorced. When it happened, I HATED that I would now have to refer to him as my ex-husband, or that I would be tagged with the label, "divorced."

    But I'm living proof that you can move on, meet someone truly wonderful, and leave the past far, far behind! I love my life these days, and I wouldn't trade it for ANYTHING! This will happen for you, too! I KNOW it!!

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  18. Thanks for sharing. I know that must have been a very hard decision for you and I'm glad you're doing well. I've had close friends go through divorces and I know it is so hard. It sounds like you've built a good life for yourself and your girls and I hope you continue in happiness.

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  19. I know it was hard to put yourself out there, thanks for sharing! And, I hope that it takes a little weight off your shoulders in the blogging world. Your life is your life, blogging is a small snippet of your life. xoxo

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  20. I'm so glad you shared that. You have been through a lot but come through! A triumph! Yes everyone has something to overcome. Loved this post.

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  21. Bethany, I admire you for blogging about this. You're a very strong woman and an excellent mother. You have a lot to offer, and your Prince Charming WILL come! :-) I think you're an inspiration to everyone! XOXO

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  22. Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt post. It can be so hard to figure out how much to share on your blog, I always struggle with it myself.

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  23. Thanks for sharing this with us. I have been there! I know how hard it is being a single mom, I raised my son on my own and I admire you for being such a wonderful mother to your 2 Minnies! I honestly never thought I would remarry or have another child and along came my Mr. Wonderful and I can't imagine life without him or Olivia.
    You are an inspiration! XOX Sue

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  24. B, You are an amazing woman...and such an inspiration! I must say, if pressed, I probably did think there was a Mr. MP&G running around in your life somewhere. I hadn't really given it much thought though, because what YOU are doing/talking about/sharing is always so interesting :)

    Knowing that you not only left a situation that wasn't best for you or the girls, and moved such a distance, and are having so much success AND...are such a positive person, makes me admire you even more!

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