Saturday, August 6, 2011

Facebook Etiquette

Happy Saturday! I had a different post in mind for today, but recently some things have happened on Facebook that made me think about Facebook Etiquette.

According to, Etiquette is: conventional requirements as to social behavior; proprieties of conduct as established in any class or community or for any occasion.

Misunderstandings and problems between friends (in real life!) and family can occur if these norms of behavior are not observed. Here are a few tips to consider when using Facebook or other social media. We all know to avoid the crazy college pictures or talking negatively about work or bosses, but these tips are a little bit more delicate.

Posting Important News
Important news such as the death of a family member, an engagement, or pregnancy should be posted on Facebook only after immediate family has been notified. Can you imagine finding out about the death of a loved on Facebook instead of from a phone call? What about the newly engaged bride who changes her status to “engaged” before telling her parents? A mother finding out her daughter is pregnant from a Facebook post?  These examples may sound extreme, but these things have happened. So unfortunate.

Who needs to be notified? Well, that’s where it gets tricky. Yours truly was majorly criticized for not calling the masses before posting something a year or so ago. But honestly, I think the phone calls are limited to immediate family only. That’s children, spouse, parents, brothers and sisters. Sorry Aunts, Uncles, and Family Friends. You’ll get your phone call once the storm has calmed.

Overtagging Bad Pictures
You know that I’m not camera shy, but some people make me run from a camera like the plague. You know, the obnoxious overhelpful bridesmaid who takes a zillion pictures and posts and tags every single one. She even posts the unflattering ones, like the one where I’m eating or in the middle of a bite of food.

My friends and I have an unwritten rule. Because of the modern magic of the digital camera, we always look at a picture after it is taken and give it our seal of approval. “Oh yes, you can post this one on Facebook!”

Love is a beautiful thing. Everyone loves love. But it gets a little bit annoying to see that someone “loves her hubby SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much” every single day. Just once, I wish someone would post a witty response to these lovey-dovey status updates.

What are some of the worst Facebook faux pas? What annoys you on Facebook?



  1. Fabulous post, Bethany! I too think FB requires a certain level of etiquette! I find it the ones who read every post and never comment to be a little hmmmm.... stalkerish perhaps...I think that might be too strong a word!

    But I have friends who verbally reference everything I post, but they never comment online. Do they want people to think they are above FB ing? Or maybe I am overthinking it, but that I find unusual....

    Again, great post!


  2. I admit that I have my FB account locked down pretty tight. And I'm compulsive re someone posting my pic w/out my permission as I've had stalker (no kidding) problems in the past.

    I like Google+ because you can be VERY selective as to who sees your posts/photos.

  3. I found out that my husband's grandmother died when his cousin posted it on facebook. I was furious. I had to tell my husband before his mom could because I didn't want him to find out the way I did.

  4. This is such a touchy subject. I had to unfriend someone who was tagging herself and her husband in my photos! Like my son's 3rd birthday photos so not even pics with her in them!

    She also was adding everyone on my friend list to her friend list...which wouldnt be so bad but she had never met them! Then was contacted them about listing their houses with her! Ugh! She is a lovely woman but just doesnt get it!

  5. Ugh, I found out about the passing of my grandfather via my cousin on FB. My mom was furious!

  6. I think this is so true! The lovey one is hilarious. I also get tired of the constant complainers, where nothing ever goes right for them. And hearing intimate details about potty training!

  7. I have to agree.There are so many Facebook annoyances, that I want to ask the person "why should I care?" There are the overly lovey dovey posts, the "you need to know what I'm doing by the minute" posts. Then there's the "I've men scorned by men/women and I think I need to annoy you with every new dating revelation" posts. I can attest to seeing pictures of the potty training posts and it ain't pretty. The constant complainers are a killer for me, too.



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